Why you should create a personal manifesto

It’s cliche but the phrase “if you don’t stand for something, you’ll fall for anything” comes to mind. Having a personal code of conduct, goals, standards gives you guidance when you feel lost in the pace of the modern world we inhabit. This world doesn’t make a lot of sense to an ever growing sector of people and having clear parameters for yourself will help you navigate the right path through it.


Walk through the forest near my home. It’s fenced off to protect it from us humans… 😉

What should my manifesto look like?

Ultimately how you do this is up to you! It’s your manifesto.

  • You could write a list in an app you use so it’s easy to refer to on the go
  • You could have a special notebook where you create the list and then reflect on how you are living versus what your personal guidelines are.
  • You could post it publicly where those who support you and whom you trust can hold you accountable to your aspirations (though this usually requires you to ask them, as many people these days are terribly afraid of appearing “confrontational”).
  • If you’re into that sort of thing, you could even make a video that share or keep for yourself as a reminder to refer back to.

And I am sure there are many more possibilities, this is just a few ideas I came up with now. I like to write mine in my phone so that I can look at them any time and then keep a personal notebook where I can write a reflect on how I am going and remind myself of what is important to me.

What should I include in my manifesto?

Obviously a personal manifesto is just that, personal, so there are no real rules here. Here are some suggestions for those who are not sure where to start:

  • your exercise goals
  • any rules you have for yourself about how you eat
  • instructions for how you choose what you buy and your ethics
  • a timeline for anything you wish to achieve – to add focus
  • income related goals such as next career steps, business/entrepreneurial ideas, savings targets
  • a personal statement about how you wish to interact with the world
  • a vision for where you want to find yourself in 5 years time
  • a description of how you want your home life to function harmoniously
  • a list of hobbies you want to pick up as well as a prioritisation of this list
  • a daily schedule can be helpful to guide you along with the goals side of the manifesto.
  • Photos of that which inspires you could be included.

A house in our neighbourhood that inspires us – minus the vehicles!

Have you ever written a personal manifesto? What have I overlooked in my suggestions that works really well for you? 

I hope that this post provides some food for thought. May your days be ever greater with goals to guide you.


Health & Beauty with Bone Broth

You might have heard in various food & health circles about Bone Broth. Some people think what is so great about Chicken/Beef stock? Well, stock is not the same thing at all as it is produced in a mere few hours. Bone Broth is made over a 24 hour period and contains a lot more extracted minerals, not only the flavour!

Let me tell you about my recent & not-so-recent experiences with this magical liquid. I’m just going to warn you, there is a picture of well cooked beef bones later in this post so if you don’t want to see that, this post is probably not recommended for you.


Bone Broth Bubbling

I’m not new to bone broth, having first read about it several years ago when I was sick of being unhealthy & was moving into a more nourishing omnivorous diet.

At that time in my life I rushed out & bought a slow cooker and started making weekly batches of chicken bone broth from organic, free range chickens. I think I went with chicken at that time because I had loved chicken as a child so cooking up one a week and then using the bones seemed amazing & even respectful to the life of that chicken, to use it well. The benefits of chicken broth as plentiful as you can read up on elsewhere but I never really deviated from this habit to try other types of bone broth.

About a month ago I was starting to read about nutrition again & looking at recommended diets for women who wished to conceive. I started reading more books about this topic and it seemed like a happy coincidence that these authors all recommended eating in the manner prescribed by the work of Weston A. Price. Discovering his ideas in a book several years earlier had really changed my diet and approach to food.

My Husband and I have been experimenting with a greater variety of meat, including organ meats and different cuts from what we’ve been used to. Enter Beef Bone Broth into our lives!


Straining the broth from the bones.

I really wish that I’d made the transition to Beef Bone Broth earlier. Since incorporating it into my daily life, I have noticed the following changes:

  • Much better digestion – my stomach is happier, less bloating and other symptoms of aggravation in my tummy. I would say that my tummy looks and feels better.
  • Improved skin quality – by this I mean that my skin seems less oily than it was, is softer, smoother and more balanced.
  • Eyes look better – the eye area is less wrinkled and less likely to look dark underneath. I am stoked with this! It’s like an elixir of youth!

So what is it about beef bone broth that has given these results over chicken bone broth?

Without being a scientist, doctor or otherwise “qualified” person, I think it is the extra collagen in my system. Beef bone broth “gels” which is to say that when it cools it takes on a jelly like consistency. I am lead to believe that this is due to the collagen which builds strong skin. With regard to my digestive system improvements, I’ve always heard that bone broth was good for this but I really noticed an improvement from the Beef version. I think I recall reading that there are just simply more minerals in it that what you can get from Chicken bones. I’ve also heard great things about using Chicken feet to make bone broth – which I have not yet tried as these are much less easy to come by.


Two jars of Beef Bone Broth that I made this morning. They’ve cooled and the fat has risen to the top. This can be scraped off and used in the place of oils for cooking.

I’ve also heard that you want to try and get joint bones for your Beef Bone Broth as these contain some of the absolute best minerals and material that you want in your broth.

In conclusion

The things you read about Bone Broth are true and my experience has lead me to believe that Beef Bone Broth is the king of them all. I will still have Chicken Bone Broth too but I have switched from buying whole organic chickens to buying pieces and reserving any bones in the freezer until I have enough to make a broth. Beef Bone Broth is now my staple go-to broth and I love the weekly ritual of preparing it, knowing that it is building and repairing my body as I use it. Do you have any interesting stories or experiences with Bone Broth? What changes have you noticed since you added it to your diet?

How to get Married without going into Debt!

Happy 2019 again! I am finally ready to write something more full now that I’ve settled into the New Year.

We got married at the start of the month across two days. One of the key components of all our wedding planning was not to spend the average $25k. Ouch. We bought our home in 2019 and got engaged the day we moved in. We also travelled to Italy which we’d planned for almost a whole year. That was our reverse honeymoon.


Day Two of Our Wedding – 4th January 2019

We’re also thinking about kids a lot now and we’ve been saving of money towards that for when I’m not working in my current job. So our financial resources have had other important purposes in mind and as a older couple (the average age for marriage in New Zealand for both genders is closer to 30 – we’re 35 & 37) we don’t have the time to save money to have children and also splash out on our wedding. We had already put our earlier savings into our house – buying it and improving it.

We went through a few options of how to have a nice wedding without spending a portion of our new important savings. We thought we might just do it at my Husband’s parent’s house but decided that might put too much pressure on people. While we were still thinking about that, we were looking at catering and through that we found the venue that we ended up having our family celebration and ceremony at which was a nature reserve. It has a big lake, a building in case of poor weather and from where to serve food and find shade, and another cottage for my mother and I to use to dress in.


This may not work for everyone but if you can keep your guest list small, you will save a lot of money. For myself it was quite easy to achieve this as my extended families are quite spread out around the country and are therefore not very close. For my Husband, there was some pressure to invite Aunts, Uncles and Cousins. I think we partially soothed this by the fact that we had our legal ceremony in a Registry Office where you can only have a small amount of guests and then we had our own ceremonial day with our immediate families. We may have some miffed family members now but no one has spoken up yet!


  • Even if you had a celebrant or perhaps married in a church, the more people you invite, the more catering you need to supply.
  • Hiring a venue or even a backyard wedding may cost you money in things like tables, chairs, glasses and the more people you have, the more likely you will want to use a catering company because feeding lots of people is hard work that you might want to avoid on your special day.
  • You could even keep costs down further if you are comfortable by only marrying in a Registry setting and not doing anything further. Many people do and have done for a long time. Be aware that a Registry ceremony can feel very much like a formality as it takes about 5-10 minutes depending on whether you exchange rings.


While we are both interested in Religion (this is what I completed my highest studies in!) and churches are some of the most beautiful places made by man, we don’t belong to a church and found that to be an inappropriate option!

We looked for an independent celebrant but because of the close family nature of our ceremonial day, we decided to that no celebrant (stranger) was ever going to feel quite right either.

I work leading the team that issues marriage licences for my country so I am aware of the processes and thought, why don’t we do it at the Registry and still have our own ceremony the next day. It was the right decision for us.


So, how did we manage to run our own ceremony with no help from anyone outside the family?

  • Aside from our wedding cake – which we had at my Husband’s parents house later in the day – we self catered. The food choices were very important, not only because we had dietary requirements to meet but also, we didn’t want to be working hard on the actual day. My Mother and I menu planned and tested recipes for about 3 weeks leading up to the big day. We ditched some things and made sure that we had lots of finger food, platters, and the hot food were all things we could make a couple of days in advance and heat up on the day. We also did a barbeque and catered successfully for 23 people.
  • We did DIY decorations but we kept this subtle because when you are in a beautiful, nature environment, not too much more is needed. img_0208We had daisies, rosemary, lavender, an orchid centrepiece on the food table and we bought in potted plants to create an sacred space for our ceremony.

We had a duck waltz in. Also, these plants and ourselves were to be viewed from the front, which looked much better! I just don’t have a photo but you can get the idea.

We wrote our own ceremony in which we each had bits to say. We included:

  • Thank you’s for coming and to those who travelled
  • Acknowledgement of Ancestry – living and passed.
  • The story of how we met.
  • Stories of what we’ve done together.
  • Time for others to speak.
  • Vows.
  • Exchanging rings.

This felt much more authentic than had we had someone involved. It was perfect.


  • We took a risk and did NOT pay a photographer. All we wanted were a few nice photos on the day and our family members have been talented and kind enough to do that for us. The memories of the day will always last.
  • Wedding attire – Wedding dresses do NOT have to cost thousands. I bought my dress online and accessorised it with a Rosemary and Lavender Flower Crown and some flowers at my wrist. My mother was amazing with helping with making these pieces. My Husband wore nice new but re-useable clothing that he can blend into his work wardrobe – so that was quite practical. My Mother also made him a small floral piece that tied into mine that was pinned to his shirt.
  • Flowers – all our flowers we gathered with the help of my mother (this was her wedding gift to us – lots of plants!) She did an amazing job. I did not want a bouquet type thing to hold as I honestly thought it would drive me nuts!


Our wedding was perfect, for us. We had known shortly after we got together that we’d likely get married. At that stage we had no idea what that would look like. We honestly had a short engagement in part because we wanted to get married when overseas family would already be in the country but equally because we feel like we are catching up on life a lot of the time. Our relationship catalysed a lot of change for both of us that moved us from the messy people we used to be into people more aligned with the spirit of humanity’s time honoured traditions. Our Wedding was an important part of this.

We did additional saving leading in and paid for things across a 6 month period. If you have a longer engagement, this could be even easier! You can have a beautiful wedding without spending too much, it just requires real thought about what you really need and what you can skip. Be very careful about having things because someone else thinks you should. This is your biggest, special day with your spouse and it has to be meaningful to you.

All the best! – J. xx